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I Still Love Those Fries.

[ 7 ] February 23, 2010

In the fall of 2002, I was blessed with the unique opportunity to serve as the college ministry director for one of the largest and most influential churches in the country. For nearly four years, I had the opportunity to serve, counsel, lead, and learn from hundreds of college students who attended various schools within the city of Atlanta, Georgia.

During that span of time, I witnessed first hand what many ministry leaders throughout this country are experiencing today – a growing discontentment and apathy regarding the relevance of the local church in the eyes of today’s generation of young people.

Despite all of the programs, events, concerts, scholarships, pizza nights, and other heart felt approaches our churches have tried to offer in order to reach this generation, what was once considered necessary, has now become optional.

And worse, what was once attractive…now repels.

And although many would like to attribute this pattern of apathy only to young people, there is alarming number of believers today (ages 30 and up) who now refuse to have anything to do with the local church because of either a prior unfavorable experience they had while apart of one, or perhaps being made aware of a considerable disparity between what a particular leader was saying or teaching in public, and what he or she was doing in private.

I am often asked by parents and ministry leaders alike what my response is when I encounter someone who has given up on God and their faith because of something that happened to them while attending a local church. My answer, although far from earth-shattering, is always the same. Feel free to borrow it whenever you like. Here it is:

I am in LOVE with McDonald’s fries.

In my opinion, they are the best-tasting fries in the world.

Yet despite my unfailing adoration for them, I am not at all impressed with what I have to endure in order to get them. No matter the hour of the day, no matter which restaurant location I select, my experience at McDonald’s has often been an awful one.

When going through the drive-thru, my order will always be missing something.
When inside, I always encounter that one cashier who clearly is upset that I choose her line.
And I won’t even get started on having to pay an extra quarter for more barbecue sauce!

Yet, no matter the trial and obstacle, I still insist on returning. No bad experience I may have today can hinder me from expecting a better one tomorrow. Why?

Because I still LOVE those fries!

As believers, there must come a time when our love and commitment to the PRODUCT is no longer subject to the imperfections of a particular PROVIDER. Once we allow the SERVICE we have received from others to cast doubt on the SERVICE we have received from Him, we will become a great DISSERVICE to everyone we come in contact with.

On the night before He was to be crucified, Christ delivered perhaps His most important message to us all: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this ALL will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” – John 13:34-35.

It is literally impossible to truly love God without loving what (and whom) He loves. Despite its many challenges, I still believe the local church and the Body of Christ at large is by far one of the greatest ideas our God has ever had. Perhaps His finest. Imagine the impact we could have on this world if we as believers took the time to just believe the BEST of one another.

Let’s face it; some of us (as Christians) can take ourselves way too SERIOUSLY. Once you and I make the decision to lighten up and embrace the fact that all of us have missed the mark from time to time, we will be able to extend the kind of grace and unconditional love that will bring glory to God.

And most importantly, draw others closer to Him.

Over And Under.

[ 3 ] February 15, 2010

Over the past two weeks, I received several unrelated emails from different ministry leaders I know who are in the early planning stages of starting a new church or ministry.

Interesting enough, each of the emails were requesting some kind of guidance or assistance from me regarding their respective endeavors, of which I’m not quite sure I’m qualified to give.

I tend to REFER UP before LEADING DOWN; a habit that I am proud to have learned after years of serving in ministry as a middle-tier leader. If I were to take a snapshot of today’s emerging leadership pool, I would be surprised, perhaps shocked to find anyone that desires to serve from the middle anymore.

It seems like everyone nowadays has a ‘calling’ to lead from the top.

From a favorable response to a blog post, to the thundering sound of applause one received at a youth ministy event, so many of my peers have now convinced themselves that it is now their time to ‘plant’ new trees, yet very few understand the value of  ‘water’ existing ones as a middle-tier leader.

One of the greatest example of this model of leadership is found in Matthew 8:5-10v.

Now when Jesus had entered Capernaum, a centurion came to Him, pleading with Him, saying “Lord, my servant is lying at home paralyzed, dreadfully tormented.” And Jesus said to him, “I will come and heal him.”

The centurion answered and said, “Lord, I am not worthy that You should come under my roof. But only speak a word, and my servant will be healed. For I also am a man UNDER  authority, having soldiers UNDER me. And I say to this one, GO, and he goes; and to another, COME, and he comes; and to my servant, DO THIS, and he does it.”

When Jesus heard it, He marveled, and said to those who followed, “Assuredly, I say to you, I have not found such great faith, not even in Israel!”

Before venturing out into something new to be OVER, take the time to search out God’s heart as to whether or not you have exhausted your time of being UNDER. For it is in between those two positions of faith that Christ marvels most.

Leno.

[ 1 ] January 25, 2010

Other than the relief developments in Haiti, there is only one thing that has captured my attention over the past few days. Well, not a thing, but more of a person.

I have always been a big Jay Leno fan.
Perhaps more than I care to admit.

But his recent decision (along with the support of NBC executives) to return to The Tonight Show is one of the poorest examples of leadership transition I have ever seen.

Click HERE to see what I mean!

Despite how much of a fiasco this is, it perhaps cannot compare to the number of poor leadership transitions many of us have seen first hand within the local church.

As Dr. Samuel Chand wrote in his most recent book, Planning Your Succession, one of the biggest reasons many ministry leaders avoid succession planning is that if forces people to ‘face their own mortality.’

As leaders, I believe one of the most difficult leadership decisions we will ever have to make is not just our ‘ability to leave our ’seats’ when it’s time, but perhaps our refusal to look back and critique those who now sit where we sat.